What's blood got to do with it?
Kandy Kay Scaramuzzo is a seventh generation Texan with her own brick at the Cowgirl Museum. She has taught in alternative education for over twenty years. Ms. Scaramuzzo is a member of Strathmore's 2012 Whos's Who. She has a BA in Criminology and a MAedCT. She works in horse, cat, dog, and snake rescues. Ms. Scaramuzzo was a tester/observer for Therapy dogs for nine years. She ran a therapy horse riding program for autistic and special needs children for five years. She has been a recognized animal behaviorist for over twenty years. She has written her first book about an exceptional horse. She feels it is important to give back to maintain the balance of a civilized society.
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What is your definition of beautiful?
Do you equate being beautiful with the physical, outer trappings that constitute your physical body? What do you say about yourself when you look in the mirror?
Many women are highly critical of themselves. We complain about our weight, our hair, our looks, our shape, and the list can go on and on. But stop, think about yourself for just a moment. Do you realize that when you criticize yourself, you are in essence saying that you are not good enough? You are saying that you are less than. You are saying God made a huge mistake when He made you. That somehow He must have gotten distracted somewhere along the way.
Ladies, I understand wanting to be in shape, wanting to look good, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. In fact, I encourage exercise, eating properly and presenting yourself at your best at all times. However, when you talk about beauty, it is more than what is seen on the outside.
I am sure you have heard that a person can be oh
so beautiful on the outside, but tore up from the floor up ugly on the inside. That means, ugly when it comes to your personality, the way you treat others, even the way you treat yourself.
You can be the most gorgeous woman walking around, looking like America’s Next Top Model, or dressed like you just stepped out of the latest women’s fashion magazine. You can look like a Sports Illustrated swimsuit model, but…if you have
an ugly attitude and disposition then your outer beauty is quickly destroyed, and results to you being less than what God has truly designed you to be.
I am all for keeping myself up, not only in my health, but in my overall appearance. However, let me remind you that real beauty truly does come from
within. Real beauty is who you are when no one is looking. Real beauty is who you are when you see another human being in need, and how you respond to that individual. Real beauty equals being proud (not conceited) of who you are no matter what. Real beauty never fades. Who you are on the inside radiates on the outside whether that comes out in a negative aspect or a positive aspect.
I wrote a two-book series (novels). The first book in the series is titled Beautiful Ugly. The sequel to Beautiful Ugly is called True Beauty. These books tell the stories of three best friends named Kayla, Envy, and Layla. Each one of these women struggles with the ‘woman they see in the mirror’. They have difficult times accepting themselves the way they are.
For instance, Layla is morbidly obese so she settles for men to use and abuse her. She refuses to look at how gifted she is as a singer and how loving she is as a woman. How many of us negate our own gifts and talents because we feel like we do not measure up? We feel somewhat ugly and maybe even tainted.
The other friend is Kacie. Kacie has a physical disability. Like Layla, Kacie battles with the demons of low self-consciousness and low self-esteem. Because she hates the woman she sees in the mirror, she has one child after another, after another, after another, after another, after another, after another, and after another. Yes, seven children, seven baby daddies, and never a husband. If only she could see that she is more than the deformity of her disability. If only Kacie would open her eyes and see that she is compassionate, forgiving, and hard working. That she deserves the best life has to offer.
Finally, there is the third friend. Successful, beautiful, got it going on Envy. On the outside Envy’s life appears to be perfect, yet, no one knows the deep, dark demons that torment Envy mentally and emotionally, to the point that she uses others to make her feel better about herself. You probably know someone like one of these ladies. You may even be one of them.
I believe, like there is a thin line between love and hate, there is a thin line between beautiful and ugly. It’s all about who you choose to see when you look deep within yourself. I implore you to love yourself. Accept that you and no one on this earth is perfect. It’s not about who looks better than you, or who has more than you. It’s not about being over weight, underweight, short, tall, pimples or having the clearest of skin. It’s not about the ability to carry the latest designer purse, wear the best designer clothes. It’s not about those things that will one day fade away. Outward beauty should not be predicated on what someone else says about you. It’s about the love you display. It’s all about loving yourself in spite of your shortcomings.
Through their life experiences, Kacie, Layla, and Envy had to come to the realization that their physical shell was not what needed a makeover. One by one, they began to understand from all that happened in their lives that they needed spiritual beauty makeovers to remove the ugliness of sin in their lives. A makeover that only God, Himself can dispense.
I hope that from this point forward each of you reading today’s blog post will reevaluate yourself. Know that you have a choice to see the good in you. Accept yourself for being the special woman that you are. Choose to love yourself so you can love others. Affirmthat you are unique, you are one of a kind; you are perfectly designed and divinely created. There is no one else quite like you. That alone makes you beautiful!
I like this quote by the late actress, Audrey Hepburn. It reads, “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”
Beautiful? Ugly? Which one are you? Which one
will you choose to be? Only you and the woman in the mirror can answer this question.
Jill Sanders is a fellow Author who i am delighted to introduce here on DWED. Her Debut Novel is Finding Pride a story about finding ones self after tragedy. She continues on her uplifting penmanship by giving us Discovering Pride. As we discover her enamoring characters, we also are given a clear picture into how tragedy can leave a defining toll on the mind and heart. Discover a new world of literature by getting your own copy of both titles.
Megan Kimble was traveling a long way
to find the next chapter in her life, one that would not include her brother
Matt. Losing him now was tragic, even more so since she had finally freed
herself from the abuse and the shame of a bad marriage. She'd spent years hiding
things from Matt, so he wouldn't know about her horrible life. Keeping her
secret world of bruises, cuts, and broken bones, much like the one she now
sported with a large white cast.
Dealing with her loss was hard, but,
now she was thinking of taking over Matt's new business venture. This could be
the fresh start she needed, a new town, a new place to forget the pain and maybe
she could learn to trust again.
Todd Jordan was a successful
businessman, who had once lost it all, and now he'd just lost his best friend
and business partner. But, then she came into town broken and scared, and for
the first time in a long time he was looking forward to his future. Breaking
down Megan's barriers would take patience and strength, and he would need that
strength to keep what he loves safe.
Lacey Jordan was a woman who knew what
and she wanted nothing to do with the new doctor in town. He had the
perfect smile, perfectly tan muscles and a way with people. Her people. This was
her town, her family, her life, and he’d come in and shaken everything up,
including her heart.
Aaron was running away from a hard
breakup where more then just his heart had been broken. At this point all he
wanted to do was take over his grandfather’s medical practice, and work on
new house, turning it into the first place he could call home. He liked
of Pride, in fact he’d spent the only good parts of his childhood
here. What he
hadn’t expected was to bump into a fairy goddess. Bumping
hard enough to get a
concussion and have his heart mended at the same
Then, the town gets a visit that will
change their lives
forever, if they can survive.
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When seventeen year old Paige Daniels can no longer ignore the pangs of hunger, a dumpster is often her only source of nourishment. Paige has never had the opportunity to be a typical teenager. From the time she was thirteen, life has been lived on the streets. She steals what she needs to survive, but never without a silent apology and a promise to pay for whatever she took when she has the chance.
Paige finds herself with a new partner, twenty year old Noah, and her life changes in more ways than she ever thought possible. After waking up to the first snow fall of the year, Paige and Noah attempt to steal a blanket but end up taking more than they ever had before.
Will Paige and Noah just give up what they have come to know? Or will they do anything to keep the life they have begun to live?
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About the Author:
J. L. Ficks was born in Chicago, IL in 1978. He was always a dreamy-eyed boy with his head stuck up in the clouds. He was raised in the windy city where he met his best friend and future co-author, J. E. Dugue. J. E. and he spent many fun-filled afternoons adventuring through empty construction sites, small suburban forest preserves and simply imaging together. J. L. and J. E. first dreamed up the monstrously large fantasy world of Covent while they were in high school.
J. L. Ficks graduated from college with a degree in English Studies and developed an even more feverish passion for writing. He worked as a freelance writer and ghost writer for 6 years until he finally decided he didn’t like writing other “peoples’ stuff.” J. L. Ficks trained to become a Catastrophe Adjuster and has since spent many years settling large insurance claims at major storm events all over the U. S. The increased perspective of helping in the rebuilding process of countless storms has matured him and granted him further depth which he has poured into the world of Covent. Not to mention he’s gotten very good at climbing rooftops and he likes to joke that in his off duty time he spends his days writing on rooftops…
We have been introducing a new fantasy series called the Chronicles of Covent. It includes tales of multiple heroes and villains from our world. Covent, pronounced co-vent, sorry it sounds much better if you get it right, is one of the largest fantasy worlds ever created. We have over hundreds of characters, over fifty races, sixteen unique human nationalities and over twenty nations. So far we have released 2 books, Waiting Game and Kingsblood, revolving around a Dark Elven assassin named Shade. We will be releasing stories about other characters within the next few years including a series about the Elf Wars and miscellaneous adventure tales.
I hope to put out our next novel, The Last Field of Honor, which is the first tale of the Elf Wars trilogy by early next year. Please be gracious with this deadline since my wife and I are expecting another baby, and I promised her I wouldn’t let the book project get in the way. All tales we’re writing now are building to a grander tale we call the Triloriad, which we hope to be our crowning achievement.
We are very proud of our website at the ChroniclesofCovent.com. Our website is VERY detailed and includes character, race, faction, creature and place descriptions. We have had a lot of artwork donated to the project by generous artists. And don’t miss our interactive map explorer that puts the main continent of Sylvane right at your fingertips! The release of every new book will update new character, race, faction, creature and place descriptions, so the website will be constantly growing alongside our world. Come visit us soon!
I had been planning to start off today as Throwback Thursday with a Valentines Day feel. My original article had been about R&B group sensation 112 with their ever popular song “Cupid”, very Valentines Day appropriate.
But that all changed as I listened to the radio and people harped about how the day is just a scam for people to spend money on things they don’t need. Others protested because everyday you should express your love, not just today. And there is the usual- “I’m single, why should I celebrate?”
Valentines Day is a national holiday celebrated not only in the USA but around the world. It is like a plague, once one is affected by it, the contagiousness of the holiday bug will spread. Though I wont say it is a horrible sickness, its supposed to be filled with a highly acclaimed emotion that people seek throughout there life.
So I decided to pick apart the Holiday in order to get to the root of the problem that many find during this celebration.
Origin of Valentines Day
Valentines Day was originally in celebration of Saint Valentine in Rome. A priest that was said to have been imprisoned for performing weddings for Soldiers forbidden to marry, and for ministering to Christians being persecuted by the Roman Empire. To check my facts or to read more go to Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine's_Day
Saint Valentine is being recognized for following his own principles by sharing love and helping others.
How different cultures celebrate
Valentines Day is celebrated, although on different dates, by many countries throughout the world. It is said that Asians from China and South Koreans tend to spend more during this celebration of love.
I thought it was pretty hilarious while I was searching my favorite site- Wikipedia for info on the origins of Valentines day and how other cultures celebrate, to find that South Koreans have three different days with which the celebration takes place.
On February 14th women give chocolate to men, the men give women candy but not chocolate candy on March 14th. All the single people eat black noodles on April 14th in mourning.
Valentines Day is celebrated in Europe almost in the same context as it is in America. To check my facts or to read more go to Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine's_Day
How the holiday affects the Economy
What some people, the negative viewers of this holiday don’t seem to get is that this holiday brings in so much money that everyone involved takes away a tiny blessing.
For one, the population is so affected by stress we look forward to little things. It is not everyday you remember to tell someone you love them, make time for them, or show your appreciation. I bet if people did do this daily the divorce and break up rate would go down dramatically.
Like any holiday; thanksgiving, Christmas, St. Patrick’s day and so on, people tend to come out of their pocket no matter how frugal their budget is, they still spend. So think about it. The large stores like Wal-Mart or even Target, the small Mom and Pop stores you see in a plaza all receive an eye catching surplus of business on special occasions. This money that the celebrators spend help with insurance premiums, expansion, job wages or pay checks, new products….and the list goes on.
So how can we say it is all a scam? Small business owners have been straining to stay open since the downfall of the economy a few years ago. They are holding on by a string. And holidays like today give them the business they need to keep on going, to have that hope that their dream can still be achieved.
Families tend to give more encouragement, more love and affection on a day like today. Yes they should always show these emotions but when you are a full-time worker, parent, husband and/or wife, shuttle for errands and extra activities, a tissue for boogers, a cook, a repairer of the home- who the hell has time to even think about saying “Hey, I love ya kiddo or babe” or whatever it is you are to your significant others.
Let’s not forget that now they are saying there are over One million people with mental health issues in the USA alone. These people are so bogged down with their own emotional turmoil it takes a public holiday like today for them to stop fighting their inner monster to even say “I think you are awesome!” to their family or loved ones.
What is wrong with giving love?
One of the things that puzzle me is how many people gripe about Holidays in Particular. They don’t see the bigger picture of how these publicly acclaimed days help us as a society. It brings in positive vibes, pushes people closer together. Valentines Day alone, gives people the courage to open up to a secret crush or tell a loved one they are sorry after a rift.
How can anyone see wrong in giving love? How can anyone shy away or become bitter when seeing the glory of how love shapes the core of people’s lives? It brings me to mind of how cavernous the mind can be. How different people really are. Today I see the day as a clever way of showing my heart to others. Someone else who hates today might spit on me.
It’s a shame.
Share the love people
I am not saying there are no scam artists out there. I am not saying that people don’t see opportunity in such a high grossing Holiday. But when you take the fun out of giving and loving someone, you take the joy out of life as well as out of love.
I have always known my purpose in life. When I was a kid I wanted to be everything from a Doctor to a Fashion Designer, from a Cartoonist to a Hair Stylist, I never knew for certain until now, which I am striving to be an Author. But one thing I knew with my whole heart was I was made to love. I don’t feel complete without it. I can’t get out of bed without it. I can be very angry if I don’t get to express it. This is what I was created for; it’s what I always knew I was capable of, what I excelled at. Loving my family, my friends, and my children is one of my greatest achievements. It’s what I was born to do. Now I am not saying I am perfect. I am not saying I am always bubbly and positive, I have my days. But what I am saying is I strive to love. It’s what I do best. It’s what makes me happy. It’s my air.
So I may not be able to relate to those who despise the Valentine Holiday, but I think they should take a look at how much it affects the population, and how many people see a positive side to what this day does for all.
There will always be thieves, violence, and discouragement as we do not live in a perfect world. We may strive for perfection but it is an unachievable entity. We can only do the best we can with what we are given in life. So take a second and share the love people. It is only one day out of your life every year that you can brighten someone’s day. Show them that they really mean something to you.
Happy Valentines Day to everyone! With this post I share with you my unconditional love. I don’t know your walk of life; don’t know your troubles or sorrow. I may not know what you have been through, going through or will go through past today. But I share this with hopes that you will receive many blessings. And in return, I know that doing so makes me feel good. That’s all this day is meant to do.
My favorite songs to listen to today in honor and in spirit of love:
This I promise you – N’Sync
Sweet love- 112
I wanna know- Joe
If I was your man- Joe
Beautiful disaster- Kelly Clarkson
I’ll make love to you- Boys II Men
I surrender- Celine Dion
If walls could talk- Celine Dion
That’s the way it is- Celine Dion
Stick wit u- Pussy Cat Dolls
Soar- Christina Aguilara
I turn to you- Christina Aguilara
Ribbons in the Sky- Stevie Wonder
Slow Jams- Baby Face, Tamia
You put a move on my heart-Tamia
Angel of mine- Monica
Love all over me- Monica
Diary- Alicia Keys
If I aint got you- Alicia Keys
We found love- Rihanna
You love me- Jill Scott
Is it the way- Jill Scott
The Truth- India.Arie
Purify me baby- India.Arie
You- Jesse Powell
I love you- Jesse Powell
If I- Jesse Powell
My all- Mariah Carey
Music Box- Mariah Carey
My love is your love- Whitney Houston
I believe in you and me- Whitney Houston
I will always love you- Whitney Houston
Saving all my love- Whitney Houston
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