I had been planning to start off today as Throwback Thursday with a Valentines Day feel. My original article had been about R&B group sensation 112 with their ever popular song “Cupid”, very Valentines Day appropriate.

But that all changed as I listened to the radio and people harped about how the day is just a scam for people to spend money on things they don’t need. Others protested because everyday you should express your love, not just today. And there is the usual- “I’m single, why should I celebrate?”

Valentines Day is a national holiday celebrated not only in the USA but around the world. It is like a plague, once one is affected by it, the contagiousness of the holiday bug will spread. Though I wont say it is a horrible sickness, its supposed to be filled with a highly acclaimed emotion that people seek throughout there life.

So I decided to pick apart the Holiday in order to get to the root of the problem that many find during this celebration.

Origin of Valentines Day

Valentines Day was originally in celebration of Saint Valentine in Rome. A priest that was said to have been imprisoned for performing weddings for Soldiers  forbidden to marry, and for ministering to Christians being persecuted by the Roman Empire. To check my facts or to read more go to Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine's_Day

Saint Valentine is being recognized for following his own principles by sharing love and helping others.

How different cultures celebrate

Valentines Day is celebrated, although on different dates, by many countries throughout the world. It is said that Asians from China and South Koreans tend to spend more during this celebration of love.

I thought it was pretty hilarious while I was searching my favorite site- Wikipedia for info on the origins of Valentines day and how other cultures celebrate, to find that South Koreans have three different days with which the celebration takes place.

On February 14th women give chocolate to men, the men give women candy but not chocolate candy on March 14th. All the single people eat black noodles on April 14th in mourning.

Valentines Day is celebrated in Europe almost in the same context as it is in America. To check my facts or to read more go to Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine's_Day

How the holiday affects the Economy

What some people, the negative viewers of this holiday don’t seem to get is that this holiday brings in so much money that everyone involved takes away a tiny blessing.

For one, the population is so affected by stress we look forward to little things. It is not everyday you remember to tell someone you love them, make time for them, or show your appreciation. I bet if people did do this daily the divorce and break up rate would go down dramatically.

Like any holiday; thanksgiving, Christmas, St. Patrick’s day and so on, people tend to come out of their pocket no matter how frugal their budget is, they still spend. So think about it. The large stores like Wal-Mart or even Target, the small Mom and Pop stores you see in a plaza all receive an eye catching surplus of business on special occasions. This money that the celebrators spend help with insurance premiums, expansion, job wages or pay checks, new products….and the list goes on.

So how can we say it is all a scam? Small business owners have been straining to stay open since the downfall of the economy a few years ago. They are holding on by a string. And holidays like today give them the business they need to keep on going, to have that hope that their dream can still be achieved.

Families tend to give more encouragement, more love and affection on a day like today. Yes they should always show these emotions but when you are a full-time worker, parent, husband and/or wife, shuttle for errands and extra activities, a tissue for boogers, a cook, a repairer of the home- who the hell has time to even think about saying “Hey, I love ya kiddo or babe” or whatever it is you are to your significant others.

Let’s not forget that now they are saying there are over One million people with mental health issues in the USA alone. These people are so bogged down with their own emotional turmoil it takes a public holiday like today for them to stop fighting their inner monster to even say “I think you are awesome!” to their family or loved ones. 

What is wrong with giving love?

One of the things that puzzle me is how many people gripe about Holidays in Particular. They don’t see the bigger picture of how these publicly acclaimed days help us as a society. It brings in positive vibes, pushes people closer together. Valentines Day alone, gives people the courage to open up to a secret crush or tell a loved one they are sorry after a rift.

How can anyone see wrong in giving love? How can anyone shy away or become bitter when seeing the glory of how love shapes the core of people’s lives? It brings me to mind of how cavernous the mind can be. How different people really are. Today I see the day as a clever way of showing my heart to others. Someone else who hates today might spit on me.

It’s a shame.

Share the love people

I am not saying there are no scam artists out there. I am not saying that people don’t see opportunity in such a high grossing Holiday. But when you take the fun out of giving and loving someone, you take the joy out of life as well as out of love.

I have always known my purpose in life. When I was a kid I wanted to be everything from a Doctor to a Fashion Designer, from a Cartoonist to a Hair Stylist, I never knew for certain until now, which I am striving to be an Author. But one thing I knew with my whole heart was I was made to love. I don’t feel complete without it. I can’t get out of bed without it. I can be very angry if I don’t get to express it. This is what I was created for; it’s what I always knew I was capable of, what I excelled at. Loving my family, my friends, and my children is one of my greatest achievements. It’s what I was born to do. Now I am not saying I am perfect. I am not saying I am always bubbly and positive, I have my days. But what I am saying is I strive to love. It’s what I do best. It’s what makes me happy. It’s my air.

So I may not be able to relate to those who despise the Valentine Holiday, but I think they should take a look at how much it affects the population, and how many people see a positive side to what this day does for all.

There will always be thieves, violence, and discouragement as we do not live in a perfect world. We may strive for perfection but it is an unachievable entity. We can only do the best we can with what we are given in life. So take a second and share the love people. It is only one day out of your life every year that you can brighten someone’s day. Show them that they really mean something to you.

Happy Valentines Day to everyone! With this post I share with you my unconditional love. I don’t know your walk of life; don’t know your troubles or sorrow. I may not know what you have been through, going through or will go through past today. But I share this with hopes that you will receive many blessings. And in return, I know that doing so makes me feel good. That’s all this day is meant to do.


My favorite songs to listen to today in honor and in spirit of love:

This I promise you – N’Sync

Cupid- 112

Sweet love- 112

Complicated- Nivea

I wanna know- Joe

If I was your man- Joe

Beautiful disaster- Kelly Clarkson

I’ll make love to you- Boys II Men

I surrender- Celine Dion

If walls could talk- Celine Dion

That’s the way it is- Celine Dion

Stick wit u- Pussy Cat Dolls

Sober- Pink

Pill- Pink

Soar- Christina Aguilara

I turn to you- Christina Aguilara

Ribbons in the Sky- Stevie Wonder

Slow Jams- Baby Face, Tamia

You put a move on my heart-Tamia

Angel of mine- Monica

Love all over me- Monica

Diary- Alicia Keys

If I aint got you- Alicia Keys

Diamonds- Rihanna

We found love- Rihanna

You love me- Jill Scott

Is it the way- Jill Scott

The Truth- India.Arie

Purify me baby- India.Arie

You- Jesse Powell

I love you- Jesse Powell

If I- Jesse Powell

My all- Mariah Carey

Music Box- Mariah Carey

My love is your love- Whitney Houston

I believe in you and me- Whitney Houston

I will always love you- Whitney Houston

Saving all my love- Whitney Houston




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